the blame

it's always easy to point the finger and blame someone else for...your own unhappiness, your own mistakes, your own shortcomings, your own poor choices, or whatever the case may be.

when you are unhappy, it's because someone knocked you off your happy pedestal. when you make mistakes, it's because someone else didn't give you another option. when you recognize your own shortcomings , its because someones else had to be better than you. when we make poor choices we want to justify why we did what we did; like we can right the wrong.

we need to realize we can't change someone else; you can only change yourself. sometimes it's not easy to recognize our own faults and own up to them. in our everyday relationships we come into contact with all types of people, with all different backgrounds. its important to start tuning into our differences and learn to adapt to each other. if everyone could work for the benefit of someones else, we would all be happier. we would be living selflessly. we would be giving. we would be more loving.

we need more:

patience. communication. forgiveness. open hearts. open minds. willingness to do. servant hearts. affection. appreciation. embrace the difference. love.

sounds easy huh?

it shouldn't be so difficult to say "i"m sorry" -- careless words stab like a sword, but the words of wise people bring healing. it seems easy, but this is where all arguments begin and could end, if we were able to own up to the things that are within our control.

so the next time you want to point the finger, point it to the mirror. the change has to begin with you first. and when you change your way of dealing with things you will see the people around you will being to change too.